Honoring Personal Choices in Disability Language and Identity

Understanding Person-First and Identity-First Language

Let’s explore an important topic: the difference between person-first and identity-first language. Understanding these two approaches can greatly influence how we refer to individuals and how they see themselves.

Person-First Language

Person-First Language shines a light on the individual before their identity or disability. For instance, saying "person with autism" recognizes the entire person, not just their diagnosis. This approach promotes the idea that a person is more than their condition, encouraging us to see the complete individual.

Identity-First Language

On the flip side, we have Identity-First Language, which brings the identity or condition to the forefront, as in "autistic person." Advocates for this perspective argue that many individuals view their identities as key elements of who they are. For many, being autistic isn’t just a diagnosis; it’s a crucial part of their identity that influences their life experiences and outlook.

Personal Choice and Respect

Choosing between these two expressions is often a personal journey and can vary greatly among individuals. Some may prefer person-first language, while others embrace identity-first language.

So, which is the better choice? The answer is neither. If you’re exploring someone’s disability for the first time or are unsure how they identify, simply ask! By being thoughtful about the nuances of person-first and identity-first language, we can foster a more inclusive and understanding community that honors every individual’s unique identity and experiences.

Engaging in Conversations

If you have a loved one, whether newly diagnosed or experienced, engage them in open and respectful conversations at a level that is appropriate for their development. Let them know that you want to support them and respect their identity. This is an opportunity for them to share their experiences and the terminology that resonates with them. Being a compassionate listener shows that you value their perspective.

Discuss the concepts of person-first and identity-first language. Sometimes, understanding the reasoning behind each approach can help them articulate their preference. It's important to recognize that their preference may evolve over time. Encourage them to explore both forms of language without any pressure. Let them know it’s okay to change their mind as they learn more about themselves and their identity. Ultimately, whatever preference they express should be honored. Use the language they prefer while being mindful of their comfort. This demonstrates that you respect their identity and individuality.

Modeling Preferred Language

As you navigate your conversations together, model the use of their preferred language in your communications with others. By engaging in this thoughtful process, you can help your loved one discover and express their preference for either person-first or identity-first language, fostering a deeper understanding of their identity and enhancing your relationship.

Personal Reflection

When I talk about myself, I prefer to use person-first language. I view my experiences and identity as quite complex, and it doesn't seem fair to sum me up with just one diagnosis. I am shaped by all my diagnoses and the experiences that contribute to who I am. Discovering what you prefer in this area can be a personal journey, and it’s perfectly fine if you don’t have a strong opinion about it one way or the other.